You remember the butterflies in your stomach and the adrenaline rush you used to get just when looking at your partner. How even the smallest thought of them would put a smile on you face and skip in your step. But now when you see them its just the same reaction as everything else, no big smile on your face or skip in your step. Those butterflies seemed to have packed up and left as well. So how exactly do you get that spark back in your relationship?
I can tell you this now it doesn’t all come down to sex either. Take a look at the following 10 small yet effective tips you can do to ignite that flame again.
Tip #1: Talk
If you’re feeling that you having problems are beginning to get bored in a relationship or with your partner then tell them. I know it may be hard as you don’t want see the reaction of sadness on your partners face but as hard as it may be it is better if you let them know. If you let them know early on in your troubles you can even talk about things to do together in order to get the spark back. Remember your partner might be in the thought that he/she is making you happy so blame cannot be put on them for not knowing especially if you haven’t spoken to them.
Tip #2: Don’t Argue
It is very easy to become snappy and argumentative when your partner is not making you happy in your relationship. All I can say is don’t bite to it! I have many times (and yes I put my hands up to it) argued with my partner for something I’m not happy with and tried to blame him for unknowingly doing something towards my unhappiness. Needless to say I’ve been given a puzzled look and a deep sigh from him, which in all fairness I deserve, as he has no idea what I am unhappy with. If you feel you’re ready to snap take a five minute breather because you may come to realise that it’s not so bad after all and definitely not worth arguing over.
Tip #3: Enjoy Sex
As simple as it may sound you might find yourself beginning to not enjoy sex or find it boring. Whatever the situation don’t let sex become a chore because everyone hates chores so we certainly don’t want to hate sex. Think of it as a fun loving experience that you can both share. If you do find yourself getting bored of it before giving up hope try some new things. Different positions, act out scenarios, different outfits the list is endless!
Tip #4: Spend Time Together
But we’re always spending time together! Are you really? Spending time together doesn’t just mean eating with one another at the dinner then you both going off to do your own things. It is essential that you spend time together on ALONE away from the kids (if you have any), away from friends and away from family. Many people don’t realise that when they lose the flame in a relationship its often because they think they know everything there is to know about their partner. Book a surprise weekend away in the countryside where you can both get to know each other again.
Tip #5: Show Affection
This doesn’t have to be kept in the bedroom. Show affection outside the bedroom as well in your everyday tasks. Now I’m not saying every time you cross one another you should pounce on each other but when you do see each other just a gentle touch or brush across the lower back or bum. You can never give too many random hugs and kisses either.
Tip #6: Be Spontaneous
Do not let your relationship get into a boring schedule. Nothing keeps the flame burning then spur of the moment activities. These don’t just have to be sex activities but anything! If you’re both sitting around the house on a nice day jump in the car and go for a pub meal or a nice walk or even just a nice drive. You’ll soon find yourself having fun together. Remember when your bored you become irritable and fidgety, do not link this displeasure with your relationship.
Tip #7: Take A Vacation
In today’s economy people are spending devoting more time to their work schedules then to their families and loved ones. The majority of times this is because they have to in order to live comfortably, not because they want to. If your partner is coming home from work everyday tired and stressed then they’re certainly not going to be in the mood for making love. Step out of your usual routine and take a vacation for a week or two. Get you and your partner back into the relaxed atmosphere where you both have time to appreciate each other. Remember don’t be shy about getting naughty with your partner to spice things up!
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Thanks for posting, I’ll definitely be subscribing to your blog.
Thanks for joining us Mike, there’s lots more to come
do something out of the oridinary it doesn’t have to be expensive just as long as it is fun.,I do believe any relationship has work to be done all the way through,If you work together no matter how long you are together then it should go the distance.
Just remember to enjoy each other and make the most of life.
I couldn’t agree more its all about having fun together and enjoying each other. Some of the best moments i have had with my boyfriend is when they have been completely random, when we haven’t planned anything and do things on the spur of the moment and the majority of times they don’t cost a penny to do. I’m not a fan of getting into a schedule and routine in a relationship.