“Ok Angela…now you have officially lost it…no arguments are good…are they?”
No matter how good your relationship is with your partner you will still find that you will argue from time to time. You might argue over little petty things that don’t even matter or you might argue over things that have hurt you or made you feel bad. Either way arguments in a relationship are healthy because not only will you be growing together but also learning together, so you are both bound to make mistakes. The worst thing you can do is keep everything bottled up and make out you are happy with how your partner is.
Tip 1: Say How You Feel
If you are unhappy about something in your relationship or the way your partner has acted you need to tell the truth and tell them exactly how you feel about it. They may not necessarily agree with you thus turning the conversation into an argument but you need to make sure you get your feelings of unhappiness off your chest. Eventually you can talk about ways of making things better to improve your relationship. Once you have discussed everything you will feel better as you won’t have the problems playing on your mind.
Tip 2: Say It Then & There and That’s It!
The biggest mistake people make when they have just had an argument with their partner is that sure enough they have the argument but they then later bring up the same subject. You have to take on the rule “Whatever is said in the argument…stays in the argument.” Meaning you don’t bring it up an hour, a day or a week later. The whole point of an argument is to let off steam. Whatever is bothering you at the time or has done in the past you say it then and there and that’s it. Of course if you feel your partner is not making any changes you can let them know but do not keep nagging them about it and remember to give them a chance to make the change.
Tip 3: Kiss and Make-Up
There is nothing better then to have a nice hug and a kiss after a heated argument. Never go to bed without making up after an argument as you will still be annoyed in the morning and this will just turn into a vicious circle. When you see your partner you will want to argue with them. Take on the first two tips and then accept that you may have done something wrong and your partner accepts they may have done something wrong, discuss what you will do to change it and then forget about the argument and concentrate on each other.
Don’t ever feel that your relationship is on the rocks because you have an argument. Arguing in a relationship is normal so long as it doesn’t become frequent and you begin to not want to see each other. Follow these tips to ensure you get things off your chest but do not have it affect your relationship in a bad way. Remember nobody is perfect and no relationship is perfect, mistakes will be made but as long as you learn from them then there is no point worrying about them.
