If you really love someone, you would do whatever you can to improve your sex life (even if you waited after marriage). There are sex therapists, videos/media to enhance sex life, and techniques to do with a partner.

Young folks might read this message as “Oh — I’m sleeping around with tons of folks to test the water…” But does it enhance the relationship in a way? No — guys to do it to “get laid” and girls do it to “rebel against the sexual conformity” — Very few advice preach forming love as the most important foundation.

As an analogy, what I ended up marrying someone but he has sort of “gene” — asthma, alcholism, bad habits, etc. Must I divorce on that person because of that “gene”? No, if you truly love the person you would do whatever you can to help him/her. Bad sex? There are countless ways to improve it.

So, even if you waited until marriage to have sex and found your sex life was horrible, it’s nothing to do with sex — but other areas like communication, openess, trust, and perhaps learning a few techniques.

When talking about this, far too many people deal in absolutes, half-truths and their argument is nearly always based on their own understanding and view of the World. It’s refreshing to see a balanced common sense approach to the subject.

Nice article.