A lot of people come in and out of relationships wondering what they are doing wrong. You might not be doing anything wrong, it might just be that the relationship wasn’t right for you. On the other hand you could be doing one of the main things in a relationship, which is a big No No…Nagging!
The problem is sometimes you don’t realise you are doing it. Where as you may think your relationship is fine and dandy your partner might be thinking they’ve had enough of you. So how do you tell if you’re nagging in your relationship?
Nag #1: Always Telling Them Off
No matter what your partner does do you always find something to tell them off for? There might be times when your partner does need a telling off but if you find that you’re doing this quite often for the smallest of things, then you will become a nuisance to them. Remember they would have got their telling off’s when they were younger; the last thing you want to do is make them think they are dating someone like their parents.
Nag #2: Telling Them They Are Doing It Wrong
This is one of the worst nags any person can endeavour. If you’re partner is cooking in the kitchen or making something on the table do you walk in and tell them they’re not doing it right? The worst scenario I have seen is when someone was told they were not pouring out their ice cream correctly. This might seem a bit extreme to you but even more subtle nags will begin to get on your partner’s nerves. If you think they are doing it wrong then ask them don’t tell them. “Is that how it’s done?” is better then “You’re not doing that right it supposed to be like this.”
Nag #3: When They Have Done Something Wrong
Finally we get to what I personally find the worst nag of all time. If your partner has done something wrong are you the first one to point it out and let them know about it? Worst still do you have a tendency to keep reminding them about it? If yes then you will defiantly become a nag to your partner and it’s only a matter of time before they hit breaking point. If you’re partner does something wrong then the last thing they will want is to be reminded of it especially from the person who is supposed to be there for them.
If you think you have a tendency to nag or are becoming a nagging partner then all you need to do is put yourself in your partner’s shoes. Before you tell them that they broke your favourite glass and need to get a new one, take a step back and think if you would like to be reminded of this if you were in their position. Remember there are going to be mistakes made on both sides in a relationship, to stop it from failing you need to be there to pick each other up instead of putting them down.
